All girls have been there and if you weren’t, it means you’re next. We’re talking about men being men, more precisely one or more guys being so pushy that it becomes a problem. You know how it goes: they exchange a few lines with you, then they gain courage and try more and, when they see that you ignore or push them away, they come back even stronger, on different channels. Of course, as long as they don’t endanger your physical integrity it’s still OK, but it can become very frustrating and time-consuming. And this happens more than often in non-adult webcam modeling, as you will see by reading this article further.
“Hi, girls! I have a member who spends a lot of money with me, but he also insists with messages to give him my Instagram account, so we can talk more privately. When I refuse him, he gets upset and leaves for a couple of days, but then he comes back. It’s kind of tiring. I earn a lot of money from him, the studio does too, and I don’t know how to get rid of this situation without losing him. Any ideas?”, a young cam girl by the name of Caroline Skyler asked on a private forum dedicated to the webcam modeling industry.
Soon, answers came pouring in, including from models working with Studio 20 – www.studio20.live, the biggest and most successful agency in the non-adult webcam modeling world, with locations in 5 countries on 3 continents (the United States of America, Columbia, Romania, the Czech Republic, and Hungary). “Hi, there! You can tell him that, if you give him your personal account on Instagram or any other social media, the studio will block your professional account and he won’t have how to see you anymore. Furthermore, tell him that you could also lose your job. He will come back, don’t worry about that”, Sophia answered.
“Hey, girl! As Sophia said, I think that this is the best solution. Plus, it’s true, therefore you won’t lie to him. Things like this happen all the time in webcam modeling, but you can tell them that, if they like your company, then they should follow you on-site because if you give them your personal details, they would lose you”, another cam girl, Lolla, said. “Make a deal with him and tell him to spend regularly on the platform and, in turn, you could have private chats with him on Twitter. But not on Instagram or Facebook, it’s too personal, you have to keep it professional”, Sarah advised Caroline.
In conclusion, there’s not only one way to deal with pushy members in webcam modeling, or with pushy men in general. However, you have to understand that you attract what you are, therefore it’s no need to be aggressive against them or to block them. What you have to do is take a deep breath and take your time to explain to them why their approach is wrong, and to decide together what will happen next, with clear rules and boundaries.